Kabhi Haan, Kabhi Naa

No, I am not talking about the Shahrukh Khan movie but about our state of mind.
This is what exactly we all are these days, i.e. indecisive. A new Gen X - disease. Why is it so that it becomes so difficult for all of us to take a decision and to stand by it. Especially talking about our generation, we are so damn confused, whether its food, education or relationships. Should I eat pizza or pasta, should I do MBA or Govt Job......

We all are confused. The causes could be many, the obvious being the many choices available for each and everything ( even in relationships- if you don't fit in, there is somebody else ). Also, the lack of  power to take decisions and being easily influenced by our peers ( read as Peer Pressure ). All this leads to confusion and thus we look for advises from others.

But is this really a  big issue ? No, its just our mindset. The day we will realize what we exactly want will be the day that all this confusion will stop and peace will conquer.

Instant Love

Nice Title isn't it ?

These days when everything is instant from food to shopping ( you can buy everything in just a click ), then why not love !!!

People meet one day, they become friends and next day they are in a relationship. What comes up next-
Relationship status is changed on FB, selfies are clicked, day and night chats on Whats App, hanging around.

After a week-

Boredom strucks in, fights creep in, talking day and night seems to be encroaching each other's personal space.

Result- Instant Break up and then search will start again. It sounds funny but this is the reality. The other day I was talking to a friend who was confused about proposing someone. The reason was not rejection but the choices, too many to choose from ( one a smarty, one a simpleton and the list goes on.. ).

Facts says that the speed with which people committis half the speed with which they break up. Its because we lack the patience in everything that we do. Every relationship needs time and nuturing. Love is not a thing. Its a deep feeling.

Remember love can't be ordered over a click like a pizza !!!

Mahabharta

The Title itself gives way to a lot of thoughts. What this cud relate to ?

Few days back, I was watching Mahabharta on T.V. and felt shocked with Cheerharan episode ( everybody watching the drama including Bheeshma Pitamah, Dronacharya, Pandavas in the name of Dharma ). I mean in today's world, its so common but our history is filled with such examples. In Ramayan, Ravan kidnaps Sita and almost forces her to marry him ( kidnapping someone's wife ). So, this ill treatment is not a sudden outburst, it dates back to Satyug. Women were always treated like an object and the situation is still the same.

However, the only difference is that atleast at that time people were there to fight for  women, as, that's how wars took place ( killing of Ravan or Kauravas in Mahabharta ). Atleast guilties used to get their rewards sooner or later.

But today we have to fight for our own self, every minute, every second. Whether for our respect, rights or survival. Everywhere its the same. We all witness these people ( Duryodhan, Ravan ).

So, Keep fighting and never loose hope because someday we will win !!

Contemplate

As I sit down to pen down my feelings, I wonder what is the thing that I want to write or what is the thing that is yet to be written. Life is a book in itself, where each day is a lesson. But the point is that do we actually learn from them.


Answer is No because we are too busy in doing nothing that we ignore everything else important. For example-Whenever, we are upset, we start questioning God, instead of looking on the situation and our role in it. We are so engaged and preoccupied in our lives running after things ( like a mad rat race ), that we hardly bother to stop for a while and contemplate on our actions.

The problem with us is that we worry about life's situations and conditions instead of contemplating on them. There is a saying- Chintan kijiye, chinta nahin. The solutions are all within us, but we scrounge them in the outer world, in books, people and things.

So, next time if you feel that you seek help, then just close your eyes, take a deep breath and listen quitely to your inner voice, as where lies all your answers.

Bhoot

Kya aap aatma mein vishwaas karte hain ? This is a dialogue that we all must have heard in most of the haunted movies, but the question is that do we really believe in ghosts ?

I guess we do and at some point of our life, we might have felt something  ( read as strange ), considering the stories and the superstitions attached with it. Ok, me not scaring anyone. Science might have refused the existence of ghosts but my beliefs are different. We all believe in God but we haven’t seen him, then why do we defy the existence of ghosts, just because we haven’t seen any. 

What do you mean by ghosts/spirits ( bhoot/aatma ) ?

For me this is the negative energy that surrounds us in the form of anger, jealousy, greed, pride, etc etc. So, this would mean that we all have a ghost inbuilt in us compensated by the positive/good energy . Now, it depends on us, how we deal with it and whom we give more importance to the positive or the negative. 

The day we fight over this bhoot in us will be the day when world will become a better place to live in.

Am I Safe ??

This is the question that each and every girl is asking herself and to the people around her. For the first time in my life, I was scared to step out of my house. Its because the amount of fear that the recent case has generated is unimaginable. But the point is whether this is the first rape case in our country where the victim was traumatised ? ? The answer is No.

Infact, cases like these have become so common, that Delhi is also called the Crime Capital of India. Then, why are we bothered now ? Why this sudden Anguish?  It’s a common story as, every minute a rape takes place in India. On top of it, it’s the Girl who is blamed and for what that she was raped because she is a girl. People come up with solutions that in order to stop such cases girls should not wear skirts, should not talk to boys, should not leave the house after 7 pm and the list doesn't ends here. In short, today in this 21^st Century (So called Modern Society ), being a girl can be your biggest mistake. So, What do we need to change to stop this brutal and inhuman crime ?

The answer is simple, it is we, the people who need to change. We need to  change our mentality.  Parents should teach their sons to respect women. If you can’t respect a girl then, it means you can’t respect your mother either. The next step should be that Eve Teasing should be completely banned. Boys take a pride in teasing girls and passing comments which should be reported  instead of ignoring them. Fast Action against the culprits could also instil a fear among the people.

These are just some of the things that we can take to stop this heinous crime. So, Guys, start respecting women. We are equal to you and not below you. 

Random

When life appears to be sad, nature tries to motivate us. For example - Sun, it wakes us in the morning with a new beginning and sets in the evening, giving room for Moon. This tells us that tomorrow there will be a new day ( a new beginning). It doesn't matters if today we were not able to achieve our goals, we were not able to realize our dreams. What matters is our effort and the zeal with which we tried. Tomorrow we can try again.

Mai ugta hu roz ek naye savere ke saath,
Ek nayi umeed ke saath,
To kya hua  jo kuch der ke liye chip jaata hu main,
Agle hi pal uth jata hota hoon main
Andhere ko mitane
jag me ujala failane