Good V/S Evil

No, I am not here talking about the heroes or villains. I am here to talk about the good and evil within us. We all have a gray side to us, a balance of good and evil and we react to situations accordingly. In fact, nobody is totally black or totally white; we are all somewhere in between trying to cope between the two sides.

 

But the fact is that why do we fail to notice this in others?  For example- if we have a fight with a friend, then we expect him/her to apologize instead of us taking the first step. We think that it is their mistake and do not even talk for the sake of keeping the relationship intact. This is just an example but it’s a fact. We think of ourselves as angelic but while thinking of others we don’t even give consideration to their situation that they may be dealing with. If somebody shouts on us, we reciprocate instead of asking the other, what’s the matter. It could have been a bad day for them. When we think that others should understand us, then why can’t we understand them? Sometimes talking and even forgiving melts the ice and people become friends.

So, always try to understand others and think of them as a grey character and not as an evil.

 

Two faced

I am talking about us, we Indians. Yes, we are double faced. We talk about discrimination and how Indians are treated in foreign countries (almost shit) but have we ever thought how we treat our own fellow Indians. For example- we have divided people on behalf of different caste and sub- caste's- general, scheduled caste, scheduled tribes etc etc.
We treat our domestic help's like they are not even humans. Not only this we restrict our children to marry in different caste because its not of our level. I mean sentiments of every Indian gets hurt if someone descriminates with them but have we ever thought how we treat our own neighbours/colleagues/domestic help.

Think about it. First clean ourselves before pointing a finger at others!!!

Karma

Well the title says it all...Karma... Yesterday, I was thinking about the events that have happened in my life whether good or bad. There are times in your life when you feel alone and perturbed, when you feel that everyone has left you but still someone knocks your door to console you and look after you. At that moment you realize what have you earned in your life. It’s your good Karma that stays with you.



Sometimes you do something good for someone without any expectation of receiving something in return, you may not get the benefit at that point of time, but definitely someone will return that favor to you might be in some other form.



It's an old saying whatever you sow, you reap, i.e. if you do good with others, you will get the same. But if you think bad of others or hurt anyone, then you will get the same. It's not your destiny that plays a vital role but it's your karma that will lead your life.



Even Lord Krishna said the same, “Karma kro fal ki chinta mat kro ". But instead of shifting our focus on things that we need to do, we start wondering that why this thing didn't happened or why I couldn't achieve this, etc...



Some other focuses on bad karma i.e. how to bring others down by hook or crook. We don't understand the fact that we have been awarded this life by God for a purpose. We all have a purpose in life that we need to find. Life is a gift to us and we can only achieve salvation if we practice good karma.



Remember at your death bed, you will be all alone but what will stay with you is your karma...

 

Tagged

Well, the title suggests something....isn't it ?In this perfect world, (read as virtual ) of facebook and twitters, the new trend is to tag it. If you dress up a little, you are going to a party and if you dress up normal, you are a shabby lot. If you hang around with the opposite sex, then there is cooking something and if you don't , then you are outdated ( 1960's model to be precise ). If you are thin, then people will mock at you and if you are fat , then still the same torture.  I mean what the heck is wrong with being yourself and not pretending to be perfect. In fact nobody is perfect. I proudly say I am imperfect. I make mistakes, learn from them and move forward. For starters, I don't have a perfect body, can't walk gracefully. I have curves and don't really flaunt them. I talk and laugh loudly, unaware of my gestures. Is it really a shame to be yourself these days. If you don't score high, then your future is scorned ( poor kids these days ). How can everybody be equally smart and pass with higher grades.
 So, can we atleast stop tagging people and respect their individuality or else  world will be a market of wannabes who deemed to be perfect but of no use. Think about it.

Kabhi Haan, Kabhi Naa

No, I am not talking about the Shahrukh Khan movie but about our state of mind.
This is what exactly we all are these days, i.e. indecisive. A new Gen X - disease. Why is it so that it becomes so difficult for all of us to take a decision and to stand by it. Especially talking about our generation, we are so damn confused, whether its food, education or relationships. Should I eat pizza or pasta, should I do MBA or Govt Job......

We all are confused. The causes could be many, the obvious being the many choices available for each and everything ( even in relationships- if you don't fit in, there is somebody else ). Also, the lack of  power to take decisions and being easily influenced by our peers ( read as Peer Pressure ). All this leads to confusion and thus we look for advises from others.

But is this really a  big issue ? No, its just our mindset. The day we will realize what we exactly want will be the day that all this confusion will stop and peace will conquer.

Instant Love

Nice Title isn't it ?

These days when everything is instant from food to shopping ( you can buy everything in just a click ), then why not love !!!

People meet one day, they become friends and next day they are in a relationship. What comes up next-
Relationship status is changed on FB, selfies are clicked, day and night chats on Whats App, hanging around.

After a week-

Boredom strucks in, fights creep in, talking day and night seems to be encroaching each other's personal space.

Result- Instant Break up and then search will start again. It sounds funny but this is the reality. The other day I was talking to a friend who was confused about proposing someone. The reason was not rejection but the choices, too many to choose from ( one a smarty, one a simpleton and the list goes on.. ).

Facts says that the speed with which people committis half the speed with which they break up. Its because we lack the patience in everything that we do. Every relationship needs time and nuturing. Love is not a thing. Its a deep feeling.

Remember love can't be ordered over a click like a pizza !!!

Mahabharta

The Title itself gives way to a lot of thoughts. What this cud relate to ?

Few days back, I was watching Mahabharta on T.V. and felt shocked with Cheerharan episode ( everybody watching the drama including Bheeshma Pitamah, Dronacharya, Pandavas in the name of Dharma ). I mean in today's world, its so common but our history is filled with such examples. In Ramayan, Ravan kidnaps Sita and almost forces her to marry him ( kidnapping someone's wife ). So, this ill treatment is not a sudden outburst, it dates back to Satyug. Women were always treated like an object and the situation is still the same.

However, the only difference is that atleast at that time people were there to fight for  women, as, that's how wars took place ( killing of Ravan or Kauravas in Mahabharta ). Atleast guilties used to get their rewards sooner or later.

But today we have to fight for our own self, every minute, every second. Whether for our respect, rights or survival. Everywhere its the same. We all witness these people ( Duryodhan, Ravan ).

So, Keep fighting and never loose hope because someday we will win !!

Contemplate

As I sit down to pen down my feelings, I wonder what is the thing that I want to write or what is the thing that is yet to be written. Life is a book in itself, where each day is a lesson. But the point is that do we actually learn from them.


Answer is No because we are too busy in doing nothing that we ignore everything else important. For example-Whenever, we are upset, we start questioning God, instead of looking on the situation and our role in it. We are so engaged and preoccupied in our lives running after things ( like a mad rat race ), that we hardly bother to stop for a while and contemplate on our actions.

The problem with us is that we worry about life's situations and conditions instead of contemplating on them. There is a saying- Chintan kijiye, chinta nahin. The solutions are all within us, but we scrounge them in the outer world, in books, people and things.

So, next time if you feel that you seek help, then just close your eyes, take a deep breath and listen quitely to your inner voice, as where lies all your answers.

Bhoot

Kya aap aatma mein vishwaas karte hain ? This is a dialogue that we all must have heard in most of the haunted movies, but the question is that do we really believe in ghosts ?

I guess we do and at some point of our life, we might have felt something  ( read as strange ), considering the stories and the superstitions attached with it. Ok, me not scaring anyone. Science might have refused the existence of ghosts but my beliefs are different. We all believe in God but we haven’t seen him, then why do we defy the existence of ghosts, just because we haven’t seen any. 

What do you mean by ghosts/spirits ( bhoot/aatma ) ?

For me this is the negative energy that surrounds us in the form of anger, jealousy, greed, pride, etc etc. So, this would mean that we all have a ghost inbuilt in us compensated by the positive/good energy . Now, it depends on us, how we deal with it and whom we give more importance to the positive or the negative. 

The day we fight over this bhoot in us will be the day when world will become a better place to live in.

Am I Safe ??

This is the question that each and every girl is asking herself and to the people around her. For the first time in my life, I was scared to step out of my house. Its because the amount of fear that the recent case has generated is unimaginable. But the point is whether this is the first rape case in our country where the victim was traumatised ? ? The answer is No.

Infact, cases like these have become so common, that Delhi is also called the Crime Capital of India. Then, why are we bothered now ? Why this sudden Anguish?  It’s a common story as, every minute a rape takes place in India. On top of it, it’s the Girl who is blamed and for what that she was raped because she is a girl. People come up with solutions that in order to stop such cases girls should not wear skirts, should not talk to boys, should not leave the house after 7 pm and the list doesn't ends here. In short, today in this 21^st Century (So called Modern Society ), being a girl can be your biggest mistake. So, What do we need to change to stop this brutal and inhuman crime ?

The answer is simple, it is we, the people who need to change. We need to  change our mentality.  Parents should teach their sons to respect women. If you can’t respect a girl then, it means you can’t respect your mother either. The next step should be that Eve Teasing should be completely banned. Boys take a pride in teasing girls and passing comments which should be reported  instead of ignoring them. Fast Action against the culprits could also instil a fear among the people.

These are just some of the things that we can take to stop this heinous crime. So, Guys, start respecting women. We are equal to you and not below you. 

Random

When life appears to be sad, nature tries to motivate us. For example - Sun, it wakes us in the morning with a new beginning and sets in the evening, giving room for Moon. This tells us that tomorrow there will be a new day ( a new beginning). It doesn't matters if today we were not able to achieve our goals, we were not able to realize our dreams. What matters is our effort and the zeal with which we tried. Tomorrow we can try again.

Mai ugta hu roz ek naye savere ke saath,
Ek nayi umeed ke saath,
To kya hua  jo kuch der ke liye chip jaata hu main,
Agle hi pal uth jata hota hoon main
Andhere ko mitane
jag me ujala failane
  

Inner Voice

Hearing to your inner voice!!
Sometimes its so difficult to hear to your own inner voice, because you are busy listening to everyone else that you forget that there exists a person in yourself who needs you. Before being for someone else you need to be there for yourself. You need to hear what that inner voice is trying to tell you, may be you need to spend some more time with yourself. Its an exercise that will make you true to yourself and when you are true to yourself, then only you can be true to anybody else. 

Hopefully someday we will not only be able to listen to it but follow it too for making this world a better place as our inner voice always leads us to the correct path.

Competition

We all have heard this word at some point in our lives and must have faced it too but what is actually competition, is it sitting in a competitive exam (where seats are a few thousand and candidates are in lakhs) or is it participating in a reality show (where reality is even worse than soap dramas). What meaning does the word COMPETITION hold in our lives ??
The answer is very complex because our entire life is based on this word. For children it might be coming first in the class, for teens it might be being popular in their group and for adults to progress at their working place, but where are we heading to ? Where this rat race will lead us ?? 
Are we happy from our lives??

We know the answer its a NO its because we are not satisfied. We are just running towards a never ending Goal. We forget to stop and to appreciate what we have, our family, beautiful nature and the power that God has given us, the power of being able to communicate, love and being loved by others. 
So stop for a while from your never ending schedule, keep aside your notebooks and laptops and feel what you have because life is too SHORT to regret !!     

Happiness

Google this word and we will find out number of links about how to be happy, its definition, but what is Happiness, that everyone is scrounging for it? Where does it actually lie and how do we find it? 
The answer is-
 That it is actually a state of mind and we have to search for it within our own inner selves. We always confuse our desires with Happiness but the Fact is that it couldn't be found in materialistic things.  Its simple to be happy but we complicate our life so much that we just forget this simple Formula
Smile = All Tensions gone 
So, Smile Please :)

Agle Janam Mohe Bitiya Na Kijo!!

The title itself says a lot about this bitter truth. We not only kill daughters in womb but we also murder them and their dreams too. When asked about, the educated society bluntly puts the blame on the rural arena but it is them who are the "Main" culprit. For example- still in families people discriminate between a son and a daughter.
 Why is it so that women have to struggle, even when it comes to their existence??
 Why is it so that we worship Durga Maa but when it comes to respecting our mothers and sisters, we become ignorant?? 
Where are we heading too?? and Where would this lead us too??
Please guys stop this crime!!

Why Bother ?

Why bother about anything or anyone, when life has offered us so much. Why it happens that we always crib about the thing that we don't have and never value a thing that we possess. I am not saying that we should stop dreaming and not work hard but we should atleast stop for a while and appreciate the things that god has given us. Nice lines from a song-


Cry cry itna cry
karte hain kaye ko
itna darte hain kaye ko,
pal pal marte kaahe ko........

Journey

Its been quite a while...... feels like i have lived my life. All the ups and down's ( mostly down's ) seems like a decade but still living because i know i am not a quitter, i will fight till the end and not only survive but win this war called life!! Life is about Survival of the fittest, if you can't fight, then its not for you. Every moment you are challenged.......  

Expectations and problems........

In life if you don't want to encounter any problem, then the best solution is Don't Expect anything from anyone (although its human tendency and mine too) because as soon as we start expecting from people, we feel betrayed and hurt. Its the root cause of all the problems. Things that we get unexpected are the things that we actually cherish all our life. Just think about the birthday wish from that friend whom you never expected to even remember your birthday. So,
Never Expect anything from anyone.

Way Of Living: Lesson of Life

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Lesson of Life

Life is all about learning and the day you feel that you have learned everything, is the day your life is over......
Learnt a new lesson today, life is about hope and to move forward. not everybody can be Sachin Tendulkar but a tinge of hope and an extra effort can change your life.
In a company, there is only one CEO but if we dream and work hard, then nobody can stop us from reaching our goals.